27 December 2009


Remember when I wrote about surprises? And then I posted about Ben's...
Well I never got around to revealing my surprise. So here it is:


I have it upon good sources (see below)
that the first wedding anniversary is represented by PAPER.

So, after one year, I decided it was appropriate that I officially change my name on PAPER.
(I was Knudsen to him, and Sister Knudsen at church, but I had nothing official.)
You may recall that changing Juárez was kind of an issue for me.
But I also am very in favor of taking on Ben's name and all that it represents.

Also, I thought it meant lots to him. One of my favorite memories during our engagement was coming to visit at his house while he did stuff on the computer. He casually mentioned,
"It really hit me today when I put your future name into the honeymoon travel plans. I thought—she's taking on my name. That's kind of big."

(quoted to the best of my recollection)

So, enough excuses about school being more simple if I kept Juárez. I set to work.
(But in order to keep it secret, I did it on my breaks from my "real work"):

First, I had to acquire a new Marriage License because I don't recall ever seeing our first one. Good for me, the County Courthouse was between my work and my house at the time.

(had fun running into cousin Katie there who was changing her name!)

Second, I had to wait in line at Social Security where my mom works. But due to security, she couldn't hook me up so I ate lunch while I waited for my number to be called just like everyone else. However, Mom did witness me sign my new name for the first official time.

Then I could change my name on my Driver License.
This worked out because I needed a new license for scooter-riding anyway.
So a few lunch breaks involved trips to DMV, written/driving tests, safety & emissions tests, etc.
Sadly, they had to take a new picture and they didn't let me keep
my old license with the picture I loved so much.
(Photo shows a Traffic Ticket instead of my license because they'd kept my permit by accident at the DMV.
That's right: A day after getting my scooter license, I got a warning ticket a block away from my house for not coming to a complete stop at a right-turn red light...)

With my new Social Security card, I could officially change my name at BYU.
I needed a new ID there anyway because they were making everyone change.
I was ready for that new picture though. ;)

My bank made it easy. Somehow I could walk in with my documents
and they could give me a new debit and credit card on the spot.

Nu Skin was easy too. No new picture needed, just documents to HR,
then a swap for a new badge, and the IT people set up my new Knudsen work email in a jiffy.


On the night before our Road Trip, I sat on the floor to put it all together as you've seen above.
I also included the classic married-name-signature-practice, a photo from our beginning
(and ticket stub from our first August 5: the Beck concert in 2002),
and a photo from our eternal beginning...

The names in black stickers on the "file cards" are various names (some nicknames) for me.
The last name shown above is the noteworthy new one... The box to contain it all was a cheap ebay order in reference to a desk he made in high school with a similar roll-back cover. Papá helped me spray paint it and Maya lent me some nail polish to decorate.

I wrapped it up and Ben opened it that night in Vernal. Suffice it to say I enjoyed making it a lot more than he enjoyed receiving it. He just said he didn't care much if I didn't change my name.


Oh, well. It sure made for a good-n-long blog post.


Kurt Knudsen said...

Loved the story, the photos, the reason. Glad you're a K N U D S E N
now, OJK.
(word verification is proluck. Apropos, I think.)

olivia said...

wow thanks kurt for a speedy comment! and thanks for noticing the OJK. i have a story for you just about that name:

ben says he dreamed of marrying me even before we were really friends. (how precious). he said he downloaded a radiohead b-side once and didn't know the title, so he just named it OJK. perhaps it was that little act of faith ;) that led to the next year when we became friends, and then next year when we became more... and well, you know the rest. anyway, let's here it for ben.

Jordan said...

I loved this story. Brilliant, sweet, and meaningful.

becca said...

so creative. so awesome.

Josie Jo said...
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Josie Jo said...

I've wondered a lot about what would happen when I get married, as far as my name goes. Did you know:
my social security card reads "Josie Angelica Juárez"
my birth certificate (and license, passport, etc.) reads "Josefina Claire Angelica Juárez"
my church record is "Josefina Angelica Claire Juárez"

And, (in part thanks to your input as far as my initials being JAC) I prefer the one that doesn't have any legal weight. Hence the passport and stuff being in the order Mom likes more, but I like less.

Therefore, I have to change a lot, and I worry slightly about possible difficulties in the world of tighter security when the time comes to match all the documents. Probably when I get married.

But then will I have to drop my multiple middle names to keep the Juárez I cling to too (thanks Papá)? Will they let me put three names in the middle name part?

... Anyway, there's my rant for the day.

Tawny said...

k, you're so incredibly creative and cute it's nauseating.

Rebecca said...

I like sentimental gifts.

Jenna said...

Wow! What a creative project. So you - So amazing!

Kristen said...

You know when I changed my name, I added up all the amounts of money I had to spend in getting new documents, when you change your name, you make a creative box and creative cards on each item you changed. And make it a cute and very creative presentation. I wonder who has more of a mathematical brain and who stole all the creative genes? Thanks for leaving me with none. Ok, but seriously, I love that you did this, you'll be Olivia to me no matter what your last name is. And I loved the video, although it's not on this post. And I promise to not wear your favorite coat to church ever again :)

Anonymous said...

What a perfect, thoughtful gift! I love it! And I love you :)

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